Being Honest with Ourselves

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Being Honest with Ourselves

At the root of our addictions are often the patterns of dishonesty, denial, secrecy and avoidance that we’ve fallen into and that we continue to perpetuate as part of our addictive cycles. We lie to ourselves and others. We deny vehemently that we have a problem. We convince ourselves that we’re not actually addicts, that we can quit any time we want, that the people in our lives are being overly concerned, even paranoid. We blame and even resent them for interfering with our lives and for intervening unnecessarily. We keep our addictions and mental health issues a secret, out of fear of being discovered, judged and criticized. We fear being rejected and shunned, by our loved ones and by society as a whole, so we bury the truth inside of us and do everything we can to keep it from coming out. We avoid the truth as much as we possibly can, avoiding the people who have confronted us on our addictions, avoiding thinking about our issues altogether. We use our drugs of choice to self-medicate and escape the lies we’ve been telling ourselves. Consciously we usually know we’re lying to ourselves, but subconsciously we’re still being driven by our fears and wounds. In order to heal ourselves, we’ll have to learn to be more honest with ourselves. Otherwise, we’ll continue on with these destructive patterns, and we’ll never connect with ourselves in a real way. We’ll never get to the bottom of our addictions, their causes and manifestations, and how to heal them.

Being honest with ourselves takes practice. Start practicing being accountable to yourself for the lies you tell yourself, both big and small. Notice when you’re being dishonest. Notice the anxiety and discomfort that can come with dishonesty, the guilt, shame, regret and remorse we can feel. Start consciously choosing to be honest in everything you do, in small interactions with other people, in how you think about yourself and speak to yourself, in how you move through your day. Are you being true to yourself? Do you feel aligned with your truth? Do you feel at peace, or uncomfortable and at odds, with the things you’re telling yourself and others?

Healing ourselves requires that we be open and vulnerable with ourselves when it comes to our personal struggles and inner pain. It requires that we be transparent, that we stop trying to hide things from ourselves, and that we stop trying to hide from the difficult truth. With time, we often learn that dealing with the truth and everything that comes with it is far better than the crippling weight of dishonesty and deceit. We can only connect with ourselves in order to recover when we’re being honest with ourselves.

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