How Do I Make Love and Tolerance My Code?

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How Do I Make Love and Tolerance My Code?

If your life has been a series of continuous turmoil due to your drinking and using, you are probably ready for a peaceful change. One of the ways that Alcoholics Anonymous suggests making changes to your attitude is in their Big Book on page 84, “Love and tolerance is our code.”

Do the right thing. Stay in your lane. Keep your side of the street clean are all sayings that you will hear in meetings which all point to actions that represent the code of love and tolerance. You may have had a hard time wrapping your head around love and tolerance because you find yourself quick to anger and even quicker to point the finger. Changing these qualities will be challenging and you are unsure how this will even work for you. Implementing love and tolerance as your code is much easier than you think and here is how. 

Accept others the way they are. 

Everyone has different feelings, thoughts, and beliefs which are personal to them. You have to focus less on others and worry more about what you are doing. Try accepting others for who they are without trying to change them. You do not have to follow them on their path, but you can use this opportunity to become more open-minded what others do. 

Agree to disagree.

Now, this does not give you the green light to get into arguments. Agreeing to disagreeing means that you will compromise for the sake of being peaceful. The perception is that no one is right and no one is wrong because everyone is entitled to their own opinion. If you still think you are right, you have to ask yourself if you would rather be right, or would you rather be free?

Listen intently

People often jump to conclusions based on what they think they heard instead of discerning the actual meaning of what was said. Listening without interrupting or thinking about what you are going to say next may be difficult to refrain from. If you want respect, you have to give it first and listening to others without judgment is a great place to start. 

The goal of this code is to learn how to treat others the way you want to be treated using kindness and fairness. Having love and tolerance as your code gives you a chance to take principled actions and make a longstanding statement of integrity to others. 

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