Our work in recovery invites us to learn how to take responsibility for our wellness, something many of us have had a very hard time doing over the years when struggling with addiction. We’ve developed patterns of denial, avoidance, secrecy and silence, in order to avoid responsibility. We’ve gotten into the habit of blaming other people, deflecting our pain, and transferring our issues onto other people, all for the sake of taking the spotlight off of ourselves and the problems we know we need to work on. How can we learn to take responsibility? Here are a few suggestions.
Learning responsibility is like developing any new habit or skill, we have to practice it regularly and commit energy to it. Look at the ways in which you’re not taking responsibility in your life currently. What areas of your life need work? Are there elements of your daily life, your regular routines, your habits and patterns that show a lack of responsibility? Practice taking responsibility by picking a new habit, lifestyle change, or pattern you want to implement and putting energy into working on it. Maybe you want to take more responsibility for your emotional health by seeing a therapist, getting regular exercise, or journaling more often. You recognize that suppressing your emotions and neglecting your emotional health are ways in which you’re trying to avoid taking responsibility for yourself. Pick the habit you want to implement, and practice it regularly. The more we practice being responsible, the more responsible we become, and the easier it gets.
Oftentimes our avoidance of responsibility is rooted in fear. We’re afraid of the hard work it takes to be responsible. We’re afraid of failure. We fear judgment, criticism and rejection. We keep ourselves small to avoid taking risks. We limit ourselves with complacency and refuse to push ourselves out of our comfort zones. Start affirming to yourself that you’re strong, capable and powerful. Start believing that you’re stronger than your fears. We want to encourage and uplift ourselves, and to grow in our self-belief and our faith in ourselves.
Part of the recovery process entails shifting our beliefs around responsibility in order to help ourselves face our fears. We want to start seeing responsibility as something that can strengthen and empower us, rather than overtaking and overpowering us. Learning accountability is a sign of strength. It’s a sign we have enough faith in ourselves to know that we’ll come through on the other side and land on our feet, no matter what challenges we face along the way. We want to remind ourselves that responsibility isn’t something to fear, it can actually open us up to living better, happier, more fulfilling lives once we move through the fear. When we show up for ourselves, we’re rewarded with tremendous healing progress and transformation.
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