Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston. She studies courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy (Brené Brown). Her first book, The Gifts of Imperfection, outlined how to live wholeheartedly. To do so, one must let go of one thing to cultivate another. Today, Pinnacle Recovery will outline Brown’s “10 guideposts for wholehearted living from her first book. But first, to understand how to create a wholehearted life, you must first understand what that means:
“Wholehearted living is about engaging with our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, ‘No matter what gets done and how much left is undone, I am enough.’ It’s going to bed at night and thinking, ‘Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.'” (Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection.)
Here are 10 things you must work to cultivate to live wholeheartedly:
Authenticity means being genuine. To be genuine, you must let go of what other people think. If you are so focused on what others are thinking about you, you will never be able to let go and truly be yourself.
Having compassion for yourself means understanding that you cannot expect perfection. When you have self-compassion, you are kind to yourself and understanding that you cannot be perfect — and that is okay.
A resilient spirit
Being resilient does not mean that you escape adversity, but rather, you face it and remain strong throughout it. You can handle the roadblocks that you come across by making sure you are not numbing (often with alcohol or drugs). A resilient spirit also means that you do not submit to powerlessness. You have all of the power.
Gratitude and joy
Choose joy over happiness. Happiness depends on the situation, while joy is a mindset. Let go of your fears and choose joy today.
Intuition and trusting faith
You don’t have to be sure about everything all the time. By wanting to control situations, we hope to protect ourselves from shame and vulnerability. This is impossible, however. Learn to trust your intuition and faith.
Everyone can be creative in their own way. Stop comparing yourself and your work to those around you. You don’t know your struggles, and they don’t know yours. Let go of comparison and make creativity a priority.
Play and rest
Your productivity does not measure your self-worth. Allow yourself to play, then rest, by letting go of focusing your self-worth on your productivity. Your self-worth should be measured by who you are within.
Calm and stillness
Many people fear the calm because they feel as though something will come out of nowhere. They put themselves on guard all the time. Let go of the constant anxiety about the future and embrace the calm and stillness in your life.
You must find purpose and meaning in the work that you do. Let go of the self-doubt you have and what your expectations are of yourself. Create meaningful work that you love.
Laughter, song, and dance
Life doesn’t have to be serious all the time. Try not to control every aspect of your life to where you have rung out the laughter and fun from your life. Allow yourself the space to be vulnerable.
Pinnacle Recovery wants to help you live a wholehearted life. Let go of the vulnerability you have and what you hide behind. We have programs to help you live the life you truly want. Call us today at 1-866-301-0573. We can’t wait to hear from you!